Breaking up with someone is tough, but sometimes it is a must. So how do people go about telling their partners they are dumped?
Apparently, the answer depends on whether you're a man or woman, according to a new poll that reveals the differences in how and why each gender calls quits to a love affair.
For example, compared to men, women are far more concerned about breaking up with a man gently, usually softening the blow with emotional reasons for the split, according to the survey conducted by dating site SeekingArrangement.com.
The survey, which involved 1,000 men and women, asked members of the dating site why and how they would dump a partner.
Surprisingly, going against the stereotype of the commitment-phobe male, the most popular line used by when breaking up with someone is: "I'm not ready for commitment yet."
The second most used line by women is: "This is going too fast for me." Interestingly money is a lot more important to women than men with the third most used break up line being: " You don't earn enough money."
Not surprisingly, for men bad sex and lack of physical compatibility is far more important than it was for women as to why a relationship has failed with the third most used line being: "I'm not attracted to you anymore." And the fourth being: "We've lost that sexual spark."
While both sexes prefer to end a relationship face-to-face or on the phone, an increasing number of people are calling it quits over email.
A little more than half of women at 52 percent would meet a partner to end a relationship and less than half of men at 43 percent are willing the do the same.
Appallingly, 5 percent of women and 6 percent of men would break up over text and 4 percent of both men and women would get their friends to do the dirty work for them.
Relationship expert Louise Van Der Velde had a few tips about relationships and thoughts about ending a love affair.
"Relationships work when one whole person attracts another whole person. If you're giving 50 per cent, and the other is giving 50 per cent, it's not going to work. Both of you need to commit to giving the relationship no less than 100 percent," Van Der Velde said, according to the Daily Mail.
"And I think it's so healthy for people to be honest about their expectations in a relationship. Work out what you want, and don't settle for less," she added.
SeekingArrangement.com founder Brandon Wade said that an increasing number of online daters jump quickly from one relationship to the next.
"They meet someone they like, have some fun and then quickly moved on. If you are going to be a success dating online you have to learn how to end a relationship without causing too much fuss," he said, according to Daily Mail.
The Top 10 Reasons Women Give When Calling it Quits:
1. I am not ready for commitment yet.
2. This is going too fast for me.
3. You don't earn enough money.
4. You are not mature enough
5. I need to concentrate on my career
6. I don't like your friends or family.
7. It's just not working.
8. We are not going to get married, so what's the point?
9. We have not got enough in common.
10. I don't trust you.
The Top 10 Reasons Men Give When Calling it Quits:
1. It's just not working.
2. I've met someone else.
3. I'm not attracted to you any more.
4. We've lost that sexual spark.
5. It's not you, it's me.
6. I need to concentrate on my career
7. We want different things.
8. I don't want to see you any more.
9. I am not ready for commitment yet.
10. We have not got enough in common.
How Women Break The Bad News:
1. In Person - 52%
2. By Phone - 27%
3. By email - 12%
4. By text - 5%
5. Get a friend to do it - 4%
How Men Break The Bad News:
1. In Person - 43%
2. By Phone - 32%
3. By email -15%
4. By text - 6%
5. Get a friend to do it - 4%
Published by Medicaldaily.com