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Why do I feel tired, lazy, and unmotivated all the time? 

This question originally appeared on Quora. Answer by Lukas Schwekendiek, high-performance life coach.

You need to do more. The only reason nothing changes is because you are not doing anything about it. You are stuck in a vicious, repetitive cycle that is like a vortex of negative energy, and incredibly difficult to get out of.

You are not doing enough → no change in your life → thinking it is all stupid → distract yourself → consumer habits → live an easy life with no outlook → not doing anything.

Not doing enough means there will be no change in your life. This makes you start thinking about all the ways your life hasn’t changed and you get frustrated. This Frustration and Stress makes you want to run away from your life, so you distract yourself with movies, series and video games, or other consumer habits.

All of these habits make you feel okay, safe and secure, while also giving you a lot of instant satisfaction. Then you wish you could just do this all day and worry about life, leading you to desire an easy life doing nothing and with no outlook. So you think about this a lot and keep not doing much at all, resulting in no change in your life, etc.

Of course you would not be excited about your life if you ran this cycle countless times already! It is only natural that you feel unmotivated and low in energy. After all, you haven’t done anything.

Most people are in this cycle for decades before they say enough is enough.

This is also commonly known as a mid-life crisis or, when looking at successful people, “the day that everything changed.” When you finally decide enough is enough and that you do not want this life anymore, that is when you start taking your life in your own hands and start doing something about it.

The best way I learned how was to ask myself one, simple question: Okay, what now? So you are down on your luck and you are unmotivated and don’t feel healthy or happy. What are you going to do about it?

If you have no passion in life, what will you do about it? Will you keep sitting there, hoping that passion will eventually fall into your lap? Or will you search the web, ask friends, and even hire professionals to aid you in finding something you can be truly passionate about?

If you have no relationship, and feel no love in your life, what will you do about it? Will you keep standing in the corner of the bar, sipping at your beer, hoping that some brave person will come up and ask you out? Or will you take matters in your own hands, go up to as many people as you can, learn how to interact comfortably with strangers and get as many dates as you can?

Right now, you haven’t had enough yet. You are still comfortable living your current life, which is fine. If you weren’t, you would start to change something, but right now it is still fine. If that is the kind of life you wish to live, go right ahead.

If you want something to change, then you have to go out and change it.

You spent enough time waiting around for something to happen on its own, and nothing changed. I know this will be hard, but you have to kick yourself and start doing something.

Start searching for what you want, start reading books, start watching some videos. Whatever it takes, but you cannot keep waiting around.

Right now this is just a bad habit and nothing more. Are you going to keep living your life this way or will you finally say enough is enough?

Accept your life the way it is and then ask yourself: What now?

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