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Signs Your Online Dating Addiction Has Gone Too Far

The rise of mobile phones changed dating forever. There has been a growing number of dating apps that make it easier for people from different sides of the city, country or even the world to connect. 

It is true that online dating can help people find the one. There are many stories of people who started from being total strangers and ended putting the ring on it. 

Those stories give many people the hope that they may also meet the right partner. So you started downloading Tinder, Bumble and other dating apps on your phone because you believe the more apps, the more chances of winning.

You swipe left and right early in the morning during breakfast, on your way to work, during lunch break, on your way home, during dinner and before bed. Every free time during the day is the perfect time to look for a date. 

You check dozens of profiles, read their backgrounds and even go to their social media accounts to know more about them before swiping. However, spending too much time on Tinder or other dating apps may cause some problems. 

In 2018, dating company Match issued its Singles in America study that found one in six singles in the country became addicted to dating. Millennials appeared 125 percent more likely to develop addiction to dating apps compared to other generations. 

Melissa Scharf, a therapist at rehabilitation center Sober College in Los Angeles, said despite dating apps’ purpose to help find love, people may develop unhealthy relationships. Spending too much time online may negatively affect how you interact with your family and friends and in the workplace, according to Bustle.

Signs Of Online Dating Addiction

You Fall Faster

Before Tinder, you used to have solid standards and rules before dating anyone. But your frequent use of dating apps introduced you to a number of people who all appear the right one for you. 

But the fast-paced nature of online dating gives a sense of pseudo-intimacy. It makes you attached to someone quickly than you typically do. 

One day both of you share the same levels of interest in each other but a few days later you or your match left the conversation and moved to another person. Having one match will not stop you from swiping again.

The App Affects Your Self-Esteem

You always feel excited when your match sends you messages. However, it is not everyday that you would get a match or a conversation would lead to a real and serious relationship. 

Some people tend to lose self-esteem because of their failure on dating apps. This affects your self-worth and make you feel unhappy with yourself. 

Online Dating Becomes A Top Priority

You now have a number of matches or you didn’t get any. Both situations can encourage you to spend more time on dating apps since you have to reply to their messages or you have to swipe more to find a match. 

The excessive swiping may affect the level of attention you give to your family, friends, career and even your health. Your dating life is becoming unhealthy as well as your relationships outside the digital world.

Dating Apps Help You Move On (You Think)

This sign of online dating addiction appears after losing a relationship or a potential love. You immediately return to dating apps to find a distraction by looking for another date. 

That may cause some problems. Being dependent on online dating to move on after each heartbreak or rejection can lead to an unhealthy cycle of dependency on dating apps and make you more vulnerable as you seek flings. 

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