Men and women alike consider the female orgasm one of life's greatest mysteries. Both are focused on the end result — to come — but all too often, the fairer sex's big-O falls short because there's not enough stimulation, or too much stimulation, of the erogenous zones. Luckily, there are different types of orgasms that can excite women, from the popular clitoral orgasm to the tilitating nipple orgasm.
Only a third of women experience orgasm regularly during intercourse, while another third need extra stimulation to reach orgasm with intercourse. It is normal to have orgasms by means other than intercourse, like foreplay, specifically oral sex. Moreover, the ability to orgasm is contingent on various factors, including mood, work-related stress, and concerns for children, among others.
Dr. Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills psychotherapist, author of The Self-Aware Parent and co-star on WEtv, Sex Box suggests:
“Everyone focuses on the importance of orgasm; I think it's important to focus on the process and pleasure of relating to your partner by taking the pressure off of oneself and one's partner, such as whether one reaches orgasm or not; and to realize the quality and quantity of orgasm may not be related to your partner,” she told Medical Daily.
Every woman deserves the gift of low-pressure pleasure, so try these 6 different types of orgasms tonight for a different sensation — and a new way to relate to your partner.
The most common and popular of orgasms is the clitoral orgasm. The clitoris is a highly sensitive spot with 8,000 sensitive nerve endings, which is double the nerve endings in the glans of a penis. It is the "go-to place of stimulation" to send most women over the edge, according to Walfish.
She advises: “Since the clitoris is so exquisitely sensitive, many women enjoy the contact when it's not directly on top. When it's directly on top it can be painful because the nerve endings are so raw and the excitement is so intense it can hurt.”
Although most men are aware many women enjoy pleasure with clitoral stimulation, many men are not aware that direct contact can be painful. Therefore, they need to be gently cued on what feels good and what does not, and this varies from woman to woman. It can be a huge turn-on for the woman during penile penetration or intercourse if she or he massages her clitoris concurrently, according to Walfish.
There is still a lot of debate whether the G-spot exists, but 30 percent of women claim they've had a big orgasm from the famous G-spot erogenous zone through penetration alone. "Of course, the longer the sex lasts, the greater the sex, and the greater the chances for a vaginal orgasm,” said Walfish. She also suggests the deeper the thrusting, the more likely women will be able to reach the end result — orgasm.
A combined clitoral and vaginal orgasm can be "the most powerful, achieving the best of both worlds," according to Walfish. This often can be achieved with the girl-on-top position in hetereosexual intercourse so the man can stimulate the clitoris while the woman is in control of the thrusting. The blended orgasm is easier to achieve if the woman is very aroused before she has intercourse.
Walfish suggests doing a lot of foreplay (lasting at the very least 15 minutes), including kissing, touching, licking, and massaging over both bodies. It takes women longer to get excited than men, with some needing up to 30 minutes to get fully aroused. If the enthusiasm begins to wane during intercourse, Walfish recommends to go back to the heavy foreplay.
Multiple orgasms can happen one right after the other or at different times in one session. This varies from woman to woman based on how much continuous stimulation she can withstand. Walfish suggests practicing this by having the guy help you reach your first clitoral climax using his hands, mouth, or a vibrator, and then he should continue to stimulate your clitoral area in a slower way for 30 seconds, and resume at a normal pace to get to the second level of arousal.
“Sometimes you may need an erogenous area rest, as it might be overly sensitive to stimulation, but then increase arousal again,” said Walfish.
Nipple stimulation engages the same pleasure centers as the clitoris. A 2011 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found playing with the nipples and playing with the clitoris — separately or simultaneously — stimulates the same part of the brain, known as the genital sensory cortex. This is why women’ brains seem to process nipple and genital stimulation in the same way.
The clitoris is shaped like a wishbone, and for many women it extends all the way down to the anus. During anal penetration, the clitoral legs are being stimulated. In other words, an anal orgasm happens through indirect stimulation of a woman's G-spot, through the wall shared between the vagina and rectum.
“In women, anal penetration stimulates the erectile tissue in the lower part of the vagina and the G-spot,” said Patricia Johnson, co-author of Partners in Passion, Great Sex Made Simple, Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, and The Essence of Tantric Sexuality to Bustle.